Sex by pressure

Sex is supposed to be a pleasurable thing that you and your partner to do, but sometimes, women suffered because of it. Having sex under pressure sounds better than being rape or being sexual assault by people, however, we can not deny the fact that most of the time, women are no happy about that sex. In the article Sex Under Pressure: Jerks, Boorish Behavior & Gender Hierarchy, the author Scott A. Anderson talked about her opinions about sex under pressure by commenting S. Conly’s article Seduction, Rape, and Coercion.

One person can use legal or ethical reasons to psychological pressure another person to have sex. Unlike rape, victims of having sex under pressure usually do not have any actual prove and are less likely to get help. Seducers can then get away with it and even request to have sex again with the victims using the same reasons. The differences between rape or sexual assault and sex under pressure is, the victims of rape and sexual assault never consent to have sex and are forced to have sex; while for most sex under pressure situations, the victims were forced to say “yes” to sex even though they do not really want to have sex. They feel the pressure and forced to say yes to sex. Pressures can includes many different aspects such as peer pressure, pressure from family, and pressure from people in upper level.

I agree with Scott Anderson’s idea that the pressure can be reinforcing by the gendered social institutions. The idea of men as men while women as the other make women weaker and more likely to agree to have sex. As Scott Anderson’s second claim suggests, compare to women, men are more likely to use violence if got rejected when pressing another to have sex. This is true and this can actually increase the possibility of women consent to have sex because she is afraid even though she does not really want to have sex. In some culture, parents get the rights to choose when their daughter married to, and women usually have to get married with the person they do not love. In this case, if one denies having sex with her “husband”, not only she would get punishment from their “husband”, her parents can also punish her for not following the culture. In my opinion, this is inhuman, but at the same time, it is also important to respects other’s culture.

Overall, even though pressure to have sex sounds better than rape or sexual assaults, we shall not deny the fact that some people are suffered from those pressures. As far as I am concert, no one should be forced to do anything they do not want to do, and everyone should have the rights to say no.